Made to Feel Like a Drug Seeker...

I got a Phone call this afternoon from my mum. She was at work but called me as she was so upset and angry and needed someone to talk to.

We had run out of my medications so my mum went and put the prescription in on Friday as my pain had really spiked and I needed something to try and help. One of the drugs on prescription was Ketamine. As i'm sure some of you already know, it is the only medication that takes my pain down and even then it only takes it to a 6 and a half on the pain scale so I really felt that I needed it as the pain from our Vacation still hasn't settled down that much. I really hate taking it but figured that it is better than being in extra pain.

When my mum put the prescription in, the nurse told her that because it is such a strong drug and what some drug addicts use that she needed to keep the bottle. That was OK other than the fact that there was still a little bit in that could have helped knock the pain down, even if it was just for a little bit.

The nurse told my mum that the prescription wouldn't be available to pick up until today so my mum called the Chemist this morning to see if it was OK for her to go and collect it. The nurse on the phone was pretty nasty to my mum and said that she needed to see all the details from my Pain Management Doctor to make sure that it had been prescribed by him before she could dispense it because of what type of drug it is!!!

That is OK BUT when my mum took the prescription down on Friday, she gave them all of the details from my Pain Management Doctor AND when the Ketamine was prescribed to me, my Doctor wrote to the chemist and told them that it was OK for me to get repeat prescriptions every 9 days should I need to!!!

All of those details are on the flippin' records but yet the nurse made it out like my mum was a drug seeker and didn't believe anything she said!!!

My mum is now going to have to call my PM Doctor to tell him to write to the chemist and tell them that he HAS prescribed the Ketamine and that I need it to try and help with my pain. I really hate taking it but I have been off school since Friday now because the pain is so bad and I just don't feel well at all!

I'm sick of being made to look like I am a drug seeker. I'm sick that my mum has to deal with all of this when she has done nothing wrong and is just trying to help me and I am so sick that they have to make out that everyone that is on Ketamine is just a druggy and that they need help!! That is not the case at all and it is used in many hospitals to treat chronic pain and used for people that are in accidents etc.

Why do Doctors have to make it out that it is just for drug addicts take?!?! I KNOW many drug addicts take it but so do people with RSD and other chronic pain conditions and it's horrible that people have to label us as a drug seeker just because we have to take a strong drug to function without actually looking into the illness!!!!

I really hope that they will be able to get all of this sorted out soon so that hopefully I will be able to get my pain under control somewhat. It has been really high since we got back off holiday and I have hardly done anything other than lay in bed for the past few days!!

Thank you for letting me rant - I just needed to get it off my chest and i'm sure you all understand!!!

Forum Troubles and Being Stressed

As most of my blog readers know, I lost my grandad 3 weeks ago and I also run a support forum for people with RSD and their friends and family.

I have been SO stressed with everything that has been going off in my life and my familes and was frustrated on the forum when I posted a message and no-one replied to what I had written. I guess I just felt like I had done so much for the forum but no one semt to want to help and support me when I needed someone to talk to. My mum noticed the post before I did so she posted a message saying that she was frustrated and angry that not many people were replying to my posts even though I am going through a very rough time right now but still take the time to reply to others. She also mentioned that she felt now was the time to take a break from the forum and maybe step down from being an Administrator, at least until I can get things back onto an even keel.

After I saw the message that my mum had wrote, I also posted a message saying that I too was frustrated with people that weren't replying to my posts. I didn't put anything nasty but I just said that I felt now was the time I stopped doing everything on the forum. People then replied saying that I had hurt their feelings and that basically what I was saying wasn't true and that they are all there to support me even though some of them have not been. Just the other day, I was talking to someone on Yahoo IM and they knew what had happened with my grandad but still persisted in telling me about how bad their life is, in the end I ended up having to say I had to go because they were really annoying me.

Some people on the forum (especially Felicia) have been great but with others, I just feel like everything has been left to me and that I am having to do everything even though i'm not feeling well myself. I just can't understand why people can't seem to understand what I am saying and realise that I need to take a break otherwise I am going to end up going into a huge flare!!!

I've still decided though that I need to take some time to myself, to relax and just unwind and take care of myself and my family. There is just too much going off right now in my life without having to worry about the forum all of the time.

Hopefully, once I am feeling better, I will be able to go on the forum more but it's just so frustrating that people can't see things from my point of view and realise that once in a while, I may need to take a break!!

I'd like to take this time to thank a few people also that have helped me so much and always been there for me no matter what:

Felicia (Alessea) - Thank you ever so much for being here for me and everything that you have done for me. You have helped me so much more than you know and I could never thank you enough for seeing things from my point of view with the forum and for understanding. You are the best friend anyone could wish for and I could never thank you enough!

Lisa (Lisa_Moon) - Thank you ever so much for taking the time out to read my blog and comment, it really helps knowing that people are here to listen to me let off steam and I could never thank you enough also ((hugs)). I really hope things are better for you and that you have settled into your new home now!

My mum - Thank you so much for always being here for me and for supporting me 100% in everything I do. I could never in a million years thank you for all of the support you have given me - you're the best! I love you so much!

GRRR, So-Called Friends!!!

It's amazing how much this disease, RSD, makes you realise things that you would probably never have even known. I am not thankful that I have RSD because I do not want it (I mean, who would want to live in chronic pain constantly and not be able to walk?!) but I think it has probably helped me realise some things that I would never have known had I not developed this life-changing condition.

One of the main reasons I had to leave my old school was because of my "friends" not being supportive. The teachers at the school had told me that they were all supportive and that they always asked how I was doing and that they couldn't wait to see me so I really wanted to go back there and socialise with my "friends". However, once I returned to the School, all was not as it seemed. My "friends" never asked how I was doing, instead they just ignored me and pretened I didn't exist. I mentioned this to the teachers and they said that I was being stupid and that of course they cared about me. They were supposed to spend breaks with me and go and sit in the library but they didn't, they just went about doing their own things leaving me sat all on my own.

On the first day back to School, one of my so-called friends wouldn't allow me to sit next to her in the form room. My form tutor kindly asked her if I could sit next to her for 10 minutes and she harshly replied "No, she can not"!! The best bit about it is that this girl reckons she also has RSD in her leg, arm, back and teeth so honestly, if she did, she more than anyone should understand how important it is to sit down and rest and how painful this condition actually is.

I also had pressure from teachers, they wanted to rush me into doing things that I couldn't do. One day in Maths class, I had a teacher complain at me for not paying attention, when I told him it was because of my pain, he said that it was my leg that was injured, not my brain!!! I was also hopping on crutches one day to a lesson and the teacher that was with me said that I had to get a move on has she had better things to do! The last thing she told my mum was that everything would be on my terms and that if I was unable to do something, that would be fine. 2 days after that happened, I ended up in a major flare. It isn't surprising really given the amount of stress I was under.

My mum emailed the school and complained but they never replied to her emails so in the end, she ended up having to call them. The School tried to make it out that it was us that was in the wrong and that is was our fault for not updating them - even though we let them know how I was every week!!!

I mentioned what was going on with my friends to the School's Psychologist and she said that on the day I ended up in the flare, they were going to have a word with my friends to try and sort everything out. From what I can understand, they were going to sort of bribe my "friends" into being nice to me. You can't bribe someone to be your friend, you are friends with someone because YOU want to be, not because someone makes you be.

I'm so frustrated over everything that went off at the school with my friends and everything. The more I think about it, the more I think my "friends" were just using me for what they could get. On my 13th Birthday (2 weeks before developing RSD), I took 2 of my "friends" to the arena near where we live to see Rihanna and the Pussycat Dolls, we took them shopping almost every weekend before I developed RSD and bought them things and their dinners, took them to the movies when something good came out etc. While ever I was buying them something, they all wanted to be my friends but when I developed RSD and couldn't take them anywhere, they lost interest very quickly. Thinking about it now though, the day after we went to see the Pussycat Dolls, my "friends" never even spoke to me, it was like they got what they wanted and they were happy and not interested in me.

I need to somehow try and forget all of those bad experiences I had with my friends and try and move on. This condition has really helped determine who my true friends really are. At least at the new School Centre, I know that the children there are my friends because they want to be, not because I buy them things. I think it's easier has they have all being in a similar situations so know how I am feeling in some ways.

From now on though, I am not going to buy people things until I know whether or not they are my true friends. I don't want to fall into that trap again.

Sorry for rambling, I just needed to let this all out has it has been on my mind for a long time and I guess this is what my blog is for!!